Lesbianne Musings

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Partial Autobiography

Let me preface this by sharing that in the few days since I started this blog my inner growth has grown exponentially. As soon as I set up my page with that gorgeous Osprey, I became blocked. When I made the decision to Blog I had many ideas and thoughts running through my head. Today I came face to face with a core issue, a lifelong issue, at least as long as this lifetime. That issue is the need to have everyone like me or approve of me. It is a bit embarrassing to admit but my commitment to this blog is to be FREE to speak my truth and to be ME without shame or apology. And by posting a non-detailed partial autobiography I expect to become FREE and ME.  As always please know I openly welcome comments and feedback.


UPDATE of the “ABOUT” on my private FaceBook Page.

In Jan. 2011 I was inspired to improve my health in every way.
I became part of a local weight loss challenge group called Playing Big Living Lean – PBLL. There were 13 participants, 2 facilitators/teachers, and lots of supporters. We were for the most part a cohesive group, good friendships were formed and continue to this day. The work we did included exercise, nutrition, classes to learn a new way of looking at and understanding ourselves, to empower ourselves to be responsible for changing our way of thinking to create a better life for ourselves, and to “fall head over heels in love with ourselves”, monthly formal class, and twice weekly telephone conferences, and weekly peer meetings, life issues education.
For me this was all about “getting a life” as I had been suffering from recurrent major depressions, morbid plus obesity, spiritual emptiness, low self-esteem, to start with, food addiction, deep loneliness, and and a lack of passion for anything. I knew I needed to find a passion and desperately wanted to, I knew I needed to love myself and put my own self and health and spirit first, I knew I lacked motivation, and much of the time a desire to continue living. I was single and felt very alone, but I knew I needed to “fix” me and get happy before I was ready to consider any other relationship.

In 2004 I had a mental breakdown, was hospitalized for 4 weeks and went on temporary disability. I took leave from work for 6 months to focus exclusively on my healing. The floodgates opened and my body, mind, soul took this opportunity to go into a healing crisis on every level. I went through breast cancer treatment twice, multiple life-threatening infections in either arm because of interference with the lymph system when I had my surgeries, the second in 2000 was a bilateral mastectomy. meningitis, brain tumor that required surgery in 2005 and Gamma Knife radiation in 2007. In between and around all the physical issues I had recurrent lengthy major depressions. Every time I thought I was ready to return to work, school, volunteer work, or such, something else would appear.
I worked intensively on my healing holistically which included therapy, acupuncture, energy work especially Reiki, also Spiritual Healings from different paths, massage therapy, nutrition, naturopathy, homeopathy, journalling, art therapy, and multiple inpatient treatments and hospitalizations. I also had PTSD from early abuse, physical, emotional, mental, spiritual and sexual. Sexuality was an issue as at about age 30 I discovered I am a lesbian, and I’ve had much internalized homophobia, something that is less today but still appears. Also Spiritual healing includes healing from a religious childhood that I internalized as “myself being so bad even God couldn’t love me”. I was raised in a conservative, fundamentalist, judging, critical, hell fire and brimstone Protestant Church.
I’d like to acknowledge that this crisis didn’t appear out of the blue. The first time I had a therapy session my goal was “to make my husband stop beating me up and stop drinking”, when asked at that time was I angry I was puzzled, and said “no”. After all I was a nice woman and nice women/girls be nice, they don’t get angry. I had far to travel.
I know now that my depression was interfering with my life by age 14, and my food addiction, to sugar especially, started before age 5.

The PBLL group in 20011 came at a time when i was feeling healthy and well, but very downtrodden because of unmet needs and not a clue how to start loving myself and finding my passion. I expected the 9 months the group ran would deliver a brand new me. Did that happen? Err, no quite, but it brought me far.
2012 I coasted trying to maintain the 60 lbs weight loss, continuing to deal with my food addiction, depressive episodes, dislike of exercise and always the underlying loneliness and sadness.
2013 is my year to make major changes. I am both excited and nervous as I’m taking that leap, finally ready to jump off that cliff, spread my wings and see where I find myself, haha, probably literally and figuratively.
Okay I am ready to start a new life. And I’ve already implemented several new tools. While writing doesn’t feel like a passion (yet) I suspect it may become so as I’ve been doing it since I learned the alphabet, and over the years have had much support and encouragement to write.
Finally a couple of weeks ago I started a blog to challenge myself. And once I got it set up I found myself immediately blocked. Today I think that is because of fear to be me. All of my best writing over the years has included honesty and deep soul-searching. Intuitively I know that for me to feel whole and happy I have to be completely honest. Also I’ve had many life experiences that I share about freely with people I meet. I think my truth maybe is that I need to start sharing myself openly so that I can reach out to those who could benefit from my experiences.
I was a victim, then a survivor, now I am moving into thriving and deserve to support that in every way I can. Writing openly, claiming myself as a woman who deserves to take up space in this world and to breathe the air I breathe is now my new challenge.

Re my BLOG. It is/going to be more so, open, honest, with my life thoughts, feelings and experiences. Some of it is going to be hard for some people to swallow, especially those that have known me most of my life and are struggling to justify still liking me even though I’m a lesbian. I will not let that stop me and I make a commitment to myself and you special friends that i’m going for the gold. I will not let fear of judgement or criticism stop me. I drop my lifelong need to be liked by everyone. I’m okay and you are okay. My blog will be perhaps my own special “Chariots of Fire” – hear that awesome uplifting music now!


  1. Yayy you! Good for you that you’re not going to let the opinions of others dictate your life. We cannot please the world… so you gotta please yourself and be happy because nobody can live your life but you… and anyone that has an issue with that needs to build a bridge and get over it. 🙂

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